When you lose a loved one, you grieve. You have a funeral to honor their memory and to provide some kind of support to those who remain, to share the sorrow of the loss. When you lose your job or your home or your marriage, you are pretty much left to deal with that on…
When your child was little, you taught him/her basic social skills, appropriate behaviors that allow civilized people to interact with each other. “No hitting. No biting. Use your words.” Now that you have a highly reactive person living inside your precious child, you are called upon to once again do that parenting thing, setting boundaries…
One of my earliest introductions to Misophonia was the 20/20 story about a mother and teen daughter who cannot be in the same room together, and who have to communicate by writing. It appears these two love each other and have a very close relationship, but misophonia does not allow them to have the most…
I was walking through my neighborhood and passed a row of beautiful white roses in someone’s yard. Although I had been hustling along to get somewhere in particular, I remembered the expression, “Stop and smell the roses.” So I bent down to smell them, and to my disappointment, they had no odor. Pretty white flowers,…
In my practice as a therapist, over the years I have seen many adolescents and young adults. They have individual life issues they are struggling to handle, but they also have a lot in common. Some recurrent themes in our discussions are: defining self as distinct from family understanding their values and beliefs – where…
When I was in graduate school, I had a professor who used to say, “Hope is the girl next door.” In other words, he did not believe in hope. He was a Holocaust survivor. He grew up as a child wandering the streets of Poland alone feeling very helpless. I guess hope did not play a part in his…
One of the most challenging and unusual characteristics of Misophonia sufferers is the tendency to make judgments about the sounds they find offensive. They frequently comment that a sound (such as chewing, sniffling, or slurping) is “disgusting.” Furthermore, that makes the person who is creating the sound also “disgusting.” Miso folks tend to then glare…
For some time, I have been posting comments on various Misophonia lists and Facebook groups. It makes sense to create this Blog to gather my thoughts in one place. If you have stumbled on this Blog separate from the rest of the website, I encourage you to check out the webpages above, for a context…